How do I know which updates are pending

Win 10 Pro 1703
The other day I paused updates to prevent new big one coming through.

Yesterday I unpause it to get a Defender/Antivirus update, it worked and let it download and install. I then paused updates again.

However I cannot find a way to see which updates are pending, and if such a way is possible to see, how do I chose which ones, like antivirus to download/install, with pause on ,...to block problematic updates as reported from internet time to time, but still being able to see all pending....-?

Ok, I tried that today, but I can only see it needs updates, and it show a defender update, but I had to undo the pause to get it to update.
What happened next is it threw that new KB update at me(the one causing problems on some systems), I cannot pause it again, so I let it go. It went to 3% with lots of disc activity and stay there.
I let it go on for some time then pull the network plug, restaterd it(cannot pause it), then restarted it again, this time it says its preparing windows....
I waited some time, it then rebooted, this time I could pause it.
However when I plugged the network cable in again, it start to download something, and just kept on, with updates paused.

I went to town for an hour, on return it finished. Eventviewer setup had entries about apps, so out of the blue it updated some app stuff, with updates paused.

Pc still ok nothing weired on boot etc.

This whole windows 10-update thing is a mess to use good words, needs a rethink in design(Fire the current programmers will be a good start). This is an engineering concept that only deliver practical issues, it cannot go on like this.......

"Qwote:
Only if you are relatively technically aware- and aware conceptually of the issues- do you=Yes I looked at this some time ago, I had this PC for a few years not connected to internet at 1511, no problems with what I used it for.

- set Active Hours=I did change that....

- set updates to Notify (which has worked excellently for me for months until recently, when I've suddenly started to get a Defender update every day or so=I did this, but the prolem here is from what I can see, is I cannot select those I want from a clear listing...

- Pro upwards can choose to Defer feature updates (= build upgrades) - and with the later versions of the CU added time options (formerly available via the group policy editor).=Yes I did this....., but will look at it again.

I'm happy I've got control; I'm not happy it has to be a learning curve, and MS is only slowly making it a bit easier for users.= I agree with you.

But hey, whoever said Windows is a true consumer product? It isn't.=I see it this way in life........A very simple rule to determine if you bought a good product, HW or SW."

##############Simple test, Good versus Bad###################

How do you know you got something well designed and well manufactured in your hands:From a toaster to a rocket and everything in between.
1-It works flawlessly out of the box.
2-It update flawlessly.
3-It keep on working for many years or in case of a car for many thousands of kilometers without a problem.
4-Its a relief to use.
5-You can talk to, helped by manufacturer easily and swiftly should a rare problem does occur.
6-The complications of the product does not surface as problems to the user.
- or-
On the other hand if you got a failure in your handsOne rule).
1-You have to keep on tinkering to keep it going.

Changing for the sake of change is probably enemy nr-1 of the "modern" world.