Windows 10 Update Woke Me Up At Midnight. Argh!

20H2

I keep a laptop on a shelf right next to my bed, just inches from my face.

At exactly midnight last night I was woken by a bright blue light in my face.

Apparently I forgot to shut down my laptop at bedtime. Perhaps I only put it to sleep, instead of completely shutting it down.

I reached over to turn it off, but on the screen was a warning to not shut down my computer.

I'm assuming I was the victim of a peremptory Windows 10 update. Is there a setting that will tell Windows to ask my permission before updating?

Will in Seattle
a.k.a. "Clueless"

I confirm that metered connections cannot inhibit KB4023057, which will probably override or undo any settings for controlling Windows Update.