How to make W10 Pro Notify me Updates are available?

I am running W10 Pro build 1709 build 16299.192 and would like it to notify me when updates are available and give me the choice to not download now and not install them until I am ready to do so. I am totally confused by what I read about getting or not getting and installing them using Regedit ot selections in Settings.

Will someone please tell me how to do this?

Thank you.

Besides disabling WU like ED pointed out, you'll need a tool to check updates.

Look at this post by topgundcp and tell, if this is it?

Other than this, there are some third party apps that doing just what you want:
- Secunia PSI (Flexera now) at Majorgeeks was once Must have for checking , if Windows updates are up to date. Windows update by itself today is good, so most of us don't need it. Still worth for checking out
- Belarc adivisor will check if you have every update installed. It does much more, but you'll tell if you need it...

There are some more - others will fill it up.
Both product are free for personal use and clean of any malware.

EdTittel said:

If you check Option One, Step 7 in this TenForums tutorial: Enable or Disable Windows Update Automatic Updates , you'll find the information you need to do what it sounds like you want to do on your PC. OTOH, you could disable WU completely and use the Windows Update MiniTool to check for and download only those updates that you explicitly allow instead. Either way, I think it will take care of your situation.

Thanks Ed.

HTH,
--Ed--

If I follow Brink's suggestion about disabling Windows Update until I manually enable it, will Windows Defender still get updated?
If it does then I am happy to disable it and enabled it periodically when I want to check for updates. I am not a fan of using third party stuff to alter the innards of Windows. That is one of my hang-ups!

Thanks again.