How do I change colors of selected items and hovered items in Win10?

I upgraded from Win7 to Win10. I had dark green selected item color and it partially transferred to Windows 10. My colors of Taskbar etc are turned on. I chose dark gray color of Title Bars, Taskbar etc., through the Personalization menu. But I can't find where the color of selected items can be chosen? If I re-install Windows 10 clean, how will I customize it? Also, I'm not very satisfied now on the upgraded version, cause not all selected items are green, some are whitish-blue, and also when I hover over items they are blue too. This is how my Total Commander looks after the Windows upgrade:

I wanna get rid of blue tabs here, can I do it? I read this article Inactive Title Bar Color - Change in Windows 10 - Windows 10 Forums and was able to change my inactive title bars. I don't see any option there for selected and hovered items, can I create it?

Color and Appearance shortcut - Create in Windows 10 - Windows 10 Forums[1]=Shortcuts

Use a High Contrast theme and the color/appearance shortcut(above link) will allow you to edit the highlight feature in a High Contrast theme.

I downloaded the shortcut and put it to my desktop. I opened it and saw like the old style color mixer, but then there's no Advanced options for color of each item like we had in Windows 7. So how will this mixer help me change the color of selected or hovered items?

I went to High Contrast themes, tried to create several themes, and then the shortcut given by you doesn't show me any color mixer, but shows this:

I don't understand how to use this all. When I put "Window background" white, it's normal inside windows, but it makes me a white taskbar and white start menu which is terrible. When I put Window Background to black, the taskbar and start menu become black, it's better, but the field inside windows becaomes black too and I don't want it either. Can I do anything to get a dark gray (at least black) task bar and start menu, and white field inside windows where I type black text?
Your link only gives me the mixer when I'm in a normal (not high contrast) theme.

I'm sorry but this is the way 10 is now. You can change the Taskbar color in personalization. So HC is the only way to change the Highlight color that I know of.

I lost my green selected items because of a crash after which I couldn't restart and couldn't restore Windows to any previous state. BUT: I found out it's very simple to take a theme from a computer working in Windows 7 and copy it to a computer running a clean-installed Windows 10. Here and there themes are stored in C:\Users\Username\AppData\Local\Microsoft\Windows\Themes\ and Windows 10 can open a file from W7. When it opens a theme that had Black as the color of 3D objects, they become blue. Then I go to theme settings and choose the color dark gray for the taskbar etc. Then it applies, and my selected text is approximately like it was in W7 but half-transparent. Unfortunately I don't know how to make them opaque.