Notify Before Downloading?

Hello, you'd be looking for 3rd party programs to attempt to do that - I'm not sure how useful it would be to you, or how feasible, or how that would help you to control the updates, if that's what you were seeking to do.

There are some programs that were done for Win 8, with no guarantee they'd work in Win 10.

This claims to be Win 10 compatible.
Windows Update Notifier Download

- but I would suggest you'd really just have to try it.

In the tutorial section is one on how to disable automatic updates, if that's of any use in what you have in mind.

And if you find an update is buggy or causes you problems, you can hide that specific update (again, see tutorial section).

Nope. That is how Microsoft wanted it. They want to protect the OS from users bad habits. Also third party programs can be disabled by Microsoft if they see one running that restricts updates through BITS.

By the way, I agree with Bro67. I'm just answering the question as posted, and I did indicate it's a dubious idea.

You might like to see this which I've just found again (forgot before):
Forcing Windows 10 to Always Notify Before Downloading Updates - AskVG

Note: the Group Policy Editor is only available in Pro; however if you search there is (apparently) a way to enable it in Home
E.g. search without ''
'Enable GPO in Home edition "Windows 10" '
'Enable Group Policy Editor in Home edition "Windows 10" '